Guys, I never post here or on my regular blog! What's up with that?
I've sat down and drafted posts but they're always about, um, how much I don't like my job. Bo-ring. No one wants to read about that, especially in a job market where so many people I know can't even find jobs.
Does anyone have any tips, though, for dealing with work anxiety? I'm worried all the time about stuff.
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Are you planning to leave at some point? When I took the full-time position at Mayo, I told myself I'd leave within 5 years. I missed my deadline by 3 months, but I did get out. And knowing I wasn't going to spend my whole life there made things easier.
ReplyDeleteSo, give yourself a deadline. Which may actually help me, too, (me, me, me, I'm awful) because I'll have to have my book done before that. Because of course you're the first editor I'd want to consider it (not that you'd have to buy it, of course).
I do have an internal deadline, but I already had to move it and so it makes me not trust myself. Also, I don't want to live each day like, "If only I can get through to xxx." I have to figure out how to be relaxed in the now. Somehow.
ReplyDeleteAlso, I would be honored to work on your book, but ... let's take this discussion offline. Or password protect the blog. Let's just say, there are other places I'll have you send it.
Pumpkin, these are things I have learned I graduate school that have helped me. I know that they are not technically the same thing but the cohort can often feel snarky, overwhelming, competitive, fake-friendship-y, and basically like a minefield when it comes to saying, doing, eating, commenting, agreeing, disagreeing, befriending, avoiding the right thing. So here is what I have:
ReplyDeleteAsk yourself if it (whatever the particular hurdle is) is something that you are going to remember/will affect you five years from now. This has helped me determine which battles to enter and which battles to pass on-even if it means that something little will not be done exactly my way. This has helped me in marriage as well.
Figure out who is a life friend. For those who aren't set yourself free from socializing, meetings, drinks, baby showers, engagements parties, birthday presents, super late crying cell phone calls pertaining to these particular people. Then use that time to be by yourself, get a pedicure, flip through a magazine, or see friends who actually help affirm and energize you.
Keep something beautiful in your sight line that truly makes you happy. A tulip in a bud vase, a picture of Chris, a postcard from Paris, a lovely writing utensil that you paid a little too much for maybe. Focus on it and be happy you have it when everything else falls apart. It is like an eyes wide open meditation technique.
Be angry when you need to be angry. Everyone who loves you know that it is not truly who you are and will forgive the momentary lapse. The people who won't are not life friends. To deal with those see the bullet above. Love love love
Beautifully put, my dearest cole
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